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Suicide Loss, Inc.
Survivor support and suicide prevention education programs
2585 East Perrin Avenue #102, Fresno, CA 93720
Telephone: (559) 322-5877/FAX (559) 322-l 140
www..fresnosos.org
Linds Ginise, Newsletter Editor
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SOUP FON TflE SOUL
Eaclr moment is a gift. Savor it. Be in it. Even
in tlrc touglt times, take a,noment to
breathe, ground yourself and become
present in the moment. Theye is much
more to your experience, rigltt ttow, than
you realix,e, such as the fuct of your
aliveness, tlte possibilities
for
discovery,
and appreciation of a humun connection.
Kirk J. Schneider, Plt.D.
Fresno
Hope Lutheran Church Conference Room
Northwest iixon, of Fresno & Barstow
(Enter parking lot front Fresno Street)
WHEN: TUESDAY**
Feb*ury t Zth, Zl00 pm
March l7th,7-9:00 pm
**
(jrd
Tuesday of every ntonth)
Visalia
210 Connect
210 E. Center, Visalia
WHEN: THURSDAY
February l9th, 6:30-8:00 pm
March 19th, 6:30-8:00 pm
Information: Carla Sawyer, 7 86-1 525
** (jrd Thursday of every month)
If you have children youfeel would benefit
.fr"ont nteetings, you are y,elconte to bring thent.
However, if your child is under l5 years of age,
you n'tay want to consider the Footsteps
Program at St. Agnes, or Hind's Hospice,
248-85 79 ; I 2-week sessions include services for
children as youtlg as 3 years old.
EVENTS
February 21:
February 26:
March 7:
March 21:
May 2:
Annual Mom's Event
Panda Express Fundraiser
Pickups for annual auction
Annual Auction
Youth Forum
February-March 2015
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Leann Gouveia
Executive Director
t0cAt oR0uP NEws
Happy New Year! We
would like to start by sharing
some impoftant upcoming activities at Fresno SOSL. Mark
your calendars! !
Post the flyer on your bulletin board at
work-ask your frieqds to do so as well. Make copies to pass out in yo# neighborhood.
We need help with pickups and delivery of
auction items to the sale location. If you have a
pickup or truck, trailer, young strong men to help
(or women, don't want to be sexist) , or all of the
above, please call the offrce! This is usually
one-day of service, and we need you!
Moms-2-Moms
Saturday, February 21st: This event is for
our survivor moms, "Morns-2-Moms". It is a lunAnnual Youth Forum
cheon for moms who have
lost a child to suicide. We
Saturday, May 2nd is
are thrilled to have local auour 3rd annual RU OK? U
S.H.A.R.E.S Card
thor Annen Bacon discuss
MATTER! youth forum on
her book "Griefland" with
suicide prevention, 9-3:00 at
If you have the S.H.A.R.E.S
our moms. If you would like
CART. This is an event ofCard for SaveMart, Smart Foods,
more infonnation, please
fered to Fresno County youth
Food Max, and Lucky, please don't
ernail Leann at
ages 14-25 in a day-long proforget to use it! Ifyou don't have one,
Leann@fi'esnosos.org.
gram toward suicide prevenplease call the office and we will mail
tion
through education, fun,
one to you.
Panda Express
activities, resources, and supThis card costs you nothing, but
Thurcday, February 26th:
port encouraging young peoif you use it when you purchase groPlease help us by taking the
ple to become involved in
ceries at the above stores, we will reenclosed flyer (or picture of it
suicide prevention. We thank
ceive a donation of 3o/o of your
on smartphone) to Panda Exour community partners and
purchases. DON'T FORGET TO
press WillowA.{ees location
sponsors. This is sure to be a
USE YOUR CARD. Donations to
(ONLY), 4-9:00 p.m. Fresno
great event for our youth of
date from this program:
SOS will receive a percentage
Fresno County. Please see our
ofthe proceeds.
website for more info.
$15,649.07!!
#RUOKUMATTER.
Annual Live Auction
Saturday, March 2lst will be our annual live
auction co-sponsored by Fresno Auction Company,
see enclosed flyer. We will be scheduling pick ups
of large items the first week of March. Please save
your "gently used" items for us and call our office
for a pick up. Come to our event and buy some
great stuff at a great deal.
If
you know someone who is moving or
downsizing, please contact them to ask for donations for this event. If everyone contacts just a few
Candlelight Memorial
Thursday, May 7th will be our 17th Annual
Candlelight Memorial, 7:00 p.m., Hope Lutheran
Church.
Donations
Thank you to the following generous donors
this past month-you make our many programs
possible!
people, we can have an awesome event with minimal effort.
Review the iterns on the last page of the
newsletter to give you ideas of who to contact for
donations to the auction.
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D. Ray Falkenberg
Lynette Hernandez
Richard & Patricia Ginise
Lany & Judy Cottont
Gloria Varela
February-March 2015
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Chata Cartaciano
full-time staff in the office, so you may have to
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Margery Toll, in nxenxoty of Mark
leave a message.)
Anderson
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Suzarute Abrams
a
Valerie Forward
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Diane Badasci
variety of different approaches to grief and the
a
Robert & Kathleen Grazier, in mentory
Matthew Keith Grazier
of
grieving process. Some books are written by mental
health professionals, but there are a large number of
books written by survivors as well.
Paula & Dean Brown
If you would like.to check out a book, or just
Perry Kavookjian
check out our collection to see what might interest
you, please call the office. And do, please, call before you go; we do not have full-time office personnel.
Curtis & Jeanine Thornton
Maura McAndrews
Helene Peard
SOMEOTTE MAY NEEO TIIE EOOKYOU ITAVE
?IEASE RETU?N ALI SOORS IN A TIMEIY MANNES,
John & Betty Pryor
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Mary Loi Brauti
Eleanor & Gerald Stokle
Ronald Schafer
Kristen Laurence
Robin Fox Avedesian, in memory
Russell Louis Fox
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IN
LOVINO MEMORY
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In loving nxemoty, and in celebration of the
lives of:
Isaac Vargas (August 3I,1971to February 4,
2002;30 years of age), brother of Carmen.
of
Pat Kourafas
New York Life
Evelyn Vasquez
Della Wathen
Jacquelyn Johns
Henry Mazgedian
Kelly & Connie Brooks
John & Pamela Economides
United Way
Patricia Taylor
Joseph & Laurie O'Brien
Linda Ginise
Sam & Linda Lucido
Call If You Need to Talk
If you are not comfortable talking in a
group-as at our monthly meetings-and prefer to
talk one-on-one, call the office, (559) 322-5817.
Leann will arrange for someone to get back to you
as soon as possible. (Remember that we do not have
Vargas
Steven Scott (February 6, 2001), brother of
Stephanie Scott
Donald L. Phelps (January 26,1926 to February
6,2006;80 years of age), father-in-law;
father of Rick & Joanie Butler
Leisha Black (February 8, 1987), daughter of
Jody Stephens
Janet Aguilar (February 8, 2000), mother of
Kristan Henson
Joanne Zorn (February 9,2004), mother of
Wendi Hughes
Ronald Ayers (February 9, 2008), father of Julie
Ayers
Karen Nielson Gomez (March 18, 1965 to
February 9,2009;43 years of age), fiancee of
Ron Darnell
Les Peard (February 12,2001), husband of
Helene Peard; father of Catherine Peters
Quincy Vass (February 15,2003), husband of
Nancy Vass; father of Kimberly Vass
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February-March 2015
Raymond Edward Swanson (February 16,
2001), father of Gail Swanson
Stephanie Kinkead (February 16, 2070),
daughter of Carol Fredericks
John Larson (March 16,1976 to February 19,
2010;33 years of age), son of Gene & Susie
Larson; friend of Louanne. Kruse.
Stephen Philip Evans (August 18, 1980 to
February 22,2010;29 years of age), brother
of Jessica Evans
Frank Emanual Irion (February 23,2003),
husband of Virginia Irion; father of Zach, &
Marah Irion
Richard Kenneth Russell (May 16, 1970 to
February 24,1999;28 years of age), son of
Jerry & Candy Lane
Leslie Elise Drey(February 24,2002), daughter
of Jack & Judy Dunlap
James Stewart Evans (June I ,1959 to February
25,2070;50 years ofage), ), husband of
Kristy Evans; son of Colleen Evans; brother
of Tim & Amy Evans
Jeff West (February 26,1999), son of Charlie &
Deb West
Jesse Sands (February 5, 1980 to February 26,
2003;23 years ofage), son ofDan & Iso
Sands
Jeffrey Allan Beeson (May 24,1960 to February
26,2013;52 years ofage), son ofLinda
Bausch
Ann-Marie Erickson (February 29, 1992),
daughter of Pat Erickson; sister of Rebecca
Erickson
Charlene Hecht (June 12, 1945 to March I ,
2002;56 years of age), wife of Robert Hecht
Richard Alva (March 1,2005), brother-in-law of
Melissa Minerva
Dennis Shane Manley (March 2,200I), brother
of Sheila Manley
Daniel Dunlap (December 3, 1983 to March 3,
2009:25 years ofage), husband ofLacey
Dunlap; son of Marilyn Dunlap
Brianna Laurel Leon (March 4,1999), daughter
of Mario Leon
Frank Menezes, Jr. (March 5, 2001), father of
Joseph Menezes
Michael Anthony Castillo (March 6, 2005), son
of Josie Castillo; brother of Monica Castillo;
best friend of Rod Caballero
Pete Vargas (December 19, 1947 to March 8,
1987;39 years of age), father of Carmen
Vargas
Jerry Holt (March
8, 2000), son of Risa Holt;
brother of Joy Holt
Kenneth B. Young (August 30, 1984 to March 8,
2004;19 years ofage), son ofCarol Young;
brother of Lori Young
Haig Tashjian (March 10,2005), son of Zareh &
Narguise Tashjian
Chris Montgomery (March 11,2002), friend of
Christine Marquez
Lee Kenneth Winjum (May 19, 1985 to March
12,2002; l6 years ofage), son ofSkip &
Janice Winjum; brother of Monica Pardue
Ted Endrzejewski (March 14,2006), husband of
Kathy Endrzejewski
Daniel Lacebal (September 20, 1965 to March
15, l99l1'25 years of age), brother of David
Lacebal
Glenn Temple (January 21,1968 to March 15,
20ll;43 years ofage), brother ofJennifer
Deis
Troy Turnipseed (March 16,2001), son of Joy
Turnipseed
Josh Barba (March 17,2003), boyfriend of
Gabby Fundaro
Matthew Arendt Beggs (May 30, 1985 to March
17,2004; l8 years ofage), son ofPatrick &
Deborah Beggs; brother of Hannah & Reanin
Beggs; grandson of Phil & Joann Arendt;
nephew of Mary Plumlee
Dr. Curt Hartung (March 77 ,2005), father of
Scott Hartung
Jeanette Dold (March 18,2001), daughter of
Alice Dold
Dylan Canutt (March 18, 2005), brother of Sarah
Meyer
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Marty Villalobos (March
18, 2005), son
of
David Andrew Fieguth (March 28,2003), son of
Walter Fieguth
Migdalia Rivera (November 28,1956 to March
28,2012;55 years of age), mother of
Elizabeth Lopez; mother-in-Iaw of Jennifer
Velasquez; sister-in-law of Darlene Nelson;
friend of Karina Olaguez
Todd Starkey (March 30, 2001), husband of
Tamara Starkey; brother of Pam Culpepper;
friend of Jackie Medina
Spencer Calvin Richey (March 30,2006), son of
Deanna Richey, brother of Larry & Monica
Richey
Jeanne Allen (August 1,1937 to March 31,1914;
36 years of age), mother of Louanne Kruse
Randy Lucido (August 10,1962 to March 31,
1990;27 years ofage), son ofSam & Linda
Lucido; grandson of Frank & Grace Lucido
Ramona Brooks
Larry Varela (March 19,1995),husband of
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Gloria Varela
Sharyn Roberta Tayloe (March 19, 1999), wife
of Dr. Donald Tayloe, mother of Brent & Jeff
Fishel, daughter of Helen Richardson,
grandmother of Miya Fishel
David Costales (March 19,2001), son of Cannen
Hernandez
Jessica Aguilar (March 19,2011), niece of Judy
Hafliger
Ronald Elliott (March 21, lg94), husband of
Louise Elliott
Dan Anderson (February 1,1938 to March23,
2012;74 years of age), friend of Louanne
Kruse
Raymond "Randy,, Adams (August 25,1977 to
March 25,2013; 35 years of age), son of
Mary Flowe
Georgie (March 27,2013), aunt & mother figure
olStephanie Dunean
Manuel Espinosa (March 28,l9g7), husband of
Anita Espinosa
Laura Waite (March 28,200I), daughter of
Margy Becker
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ABrtctEs
We have published this article before,
but it is worth reminding-oursclyes4.$rhat we can
do to help ourselves through tough tirnes.
Thoughts for the New Year
In this world happiness is not possible all the
time. Things happen in our lives that we cannot
control, but we do have a choice: To forever remain
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in our grief or find that life is worth living. That
doesn't mean to irnply that it is easy or happens in a
short time. Grief is a normal reaction to the death of
a loved one. It is painful, and requires a lot of grief
work on ourpart. There is no specific timeframe for
grief; for most of us the pain of grief takes too long.
Ask yourself this question: If I had died and my
loved one had lived, would I want them to be as
happy as possible? I'm sure your answer would be
YES! Realize that your happiness is what your
loved one would want for you. You need to work on
your grief and work toward that attitude of
happiness.
And happiness IS an attitude. It's like a muscle; the more you use it, the better it develops. You
have to look for the possibilities in life. If you get
stuck in the mire, you stay there. You can leam new
ways of coping; you can learn skills for getting "unstuck". As you journey through grief, hold onto
hope and become determined to enjoy as much of
life as possible. That is a real tribute to your loved
one! Following are some suggestions for the New
ls31-"lssolutions" if you will.
.
I will be kind to myself; I will take care of my
health, my appearance, and try to enjoy life.
. I will try to be more considerate of my
remaining loved ones; they too are coping
and deserve my help.
. I
will not be afraid to
try
"fi1s1s"-fu1fi1lment, joy and advenfure may
await me there!
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I will enjoy laughing without feeling guilty; I
will smile!
I will keep from becoming a recluse.
I will put normalcy back into life, realizing
that I have a new "nomal".
I will look at others who are happy without
feeling pain or resentment.
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I will continue when I falter.
I resolve, in memory of rny loved one, to do
something to help sofileone else, for I know
that in doing this my loved one will live on
through me.
I will try not to expect so much understanding
from others who have not walked the same path.
OOT STUFF?? ANNUAL AUCTION REMINDER,S
We have an annual auction in March; we can use
just about any type of household item--appliances, electronics, furniture, clothing, bedding, toys, etc. This
would also include lawn care items, tools, sports equipment--just about anything! Items should be in good condition; in other words, something someone would be
willing to buy at an auction for a reasonable amount of
money.
We have the ability to store the items: We can
take them off your hands any time during the year and
store them until auction time, making it sirnple for you.
After all, when we are ready to clean out our storage
spaces, we want to do it NOW!
We did quite well with this fundraiser in2}ll--our
first. It has the potential to become a very important part
of our fundraising efforts, and is pretty easy for everyone
to participate in.
Think about the following:
Do you know someone who is moving? Often
times items do not fit into the new home, or people just
want to buy something new. ASK if they would be willing to donate!
Do you know someone who is downsizing, moving into senior housing, or ?? ASK!
Do you know someone who is getting marrieAtablished households? Women generally don't want to
other items--to their decor.
@s--and
ASK!
Are you, or do you know a real estate agent who
would be willing to help us? After all, they are in the
business where people are constantly moving! ASK if
they would be willing to give a flyer to their clients
DONATE items to be auctioned
off in our live auction.
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Do your spring cleanirg and donate gently used
furniture, tools, antiques, artworkt clothes, jwelry,
electronics, collectibles, etc., eyen cars!
*Cltt us ro scHEDULE A prcK ur, oR DRop oFF rN
Ma.ncu (559)822-5A77
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Shop for great deals!
Lunch availablel Your choice of Hamburgers,
Hotdogs, Chips and
a Drink only $3-$5!
Co.Sprrrrsrrred by
Fresno Auetion Compony
xFor ,rrore information call (559)322-5877 or
isit wttn.fresnosos,org,
Email Leann at Leann@fresnosos,org